Massage and erections

I have been getting massages every week for over 10 years now. That is about 500 massages. For the first 200 or so I was constantly on guard to make sure I didn't get an erection. A few times I got one anyway and I was mortified. Perhaps more accurately, I was somewhat embarrassed and worried what the massage therapist might think.

Lately, I have mostly stopped worrying about it. If it happens, so what?!
Some therapists don't like it. Some don't mind. All of them never mention it. My body does what it is programmed to do. That is how we are built.

List of conditions is getting longer

 Manifesting is tricky. You usually get what you ask for but it is often not what you thought it would be. To manifest a good experience, it helps to more carefully define what you want.

I want to have some fun and meaningful experiences being tied up by other people. To keep it fun and uplifting requires a number of conditions, some physical and some relational. As I get older, the list of ideal physical conditions gets longer and more detailed. Relational conditions get better defined, but really apply at any age.

All these conditions means that the captor has a lot of health and safety responsibility, but that is how we keep it fun and uplifting.

Relational:

I should know that my captor will not do any real harm and has my best interests at heart.
Captor should not be an employee or any other relationship that involves one of us having financial or social power over the other.
Captor wants to do this, is playfully creative and somewhat unpredictable.
All parties understand safety and how and when to back off or quit.

Physical:

The ideal timing is when I am healthy and physically feeling well.
Time frame: Measured in hours, not minutes or days.
Temperature:  75 degrees or higher works best for long term exposure.
Food: Empty stomach is best
Bladder: Mostly empty. Well hydrated body but not saturated.
Colon: Not totally full or freshly empty. (freshly empty can pre-dispose me to cramps)

Binding:
 For short time frames measured in minutes, any position or binding method will work. For longer term, muscles, tendons joints, circulation and temperature all need to be considered.

Circulation:   Cuffs, chains and straps do a great job without having to be tight. Ropes and scarves eventually reduce circulation. For long periods, horizontal works best. Any body part that is highly above or below the heart tends to get poor circulation.

Captor can do all the binding, or I can partake in the binding to help assure comfort and safety.

Third pary

Some day, before I am too old to enjoy it, my wife is going to muster up the courage to get another person involved in tying me up. I love her too much to feel right about letting someone get too personal with me without her blessing.

This makes me consider why. What am I looking for?

Being tied up and under someone else's total control is a release of responsibility. It involves the risk of being exposed, physically, mentally and spiritually. As long as I believe my captor will not harm me and has my best interests at heart, it can be a very good thing.  It creates a new kind of freedom and brings a spiritual recharge.

I want my captor to tease me, to strip my defenses, to break silly taboos, to make me do or feel things that I would not do otherwise. This can be mental or physical.

There is a certain intimacy in not being able to hide the truth. While captive, I am in total truth mode. Penetrating questions must be answered honestly. The captor doesn't have to accept any less. That extends to the physical. Men usually hide embarrassing erections. When captive, there is no controlling when they happen, and no way to hide.